We all have them. Whether we regret something we did (Why did I get those highlights?), or something we didn’t do (Why, oh why didn’t I save the last few chapters on a backup drive?), they are at the foundation of who we are. They help mold and shape our lives, our personality and our reactions. But just because they have an influence, doesn’t mean they have to define us.
Bye-bye last three chapters...
Regrets are a learning experience, bending and stretching our definitions of the world around us. What we do with those regrets is what truly defines us. Do we learn from them and readjust our thinking and our actions (I now backup everything I save.) Or do we stay rigid, unbending our ways to meet the realities our regret introduced into our lives (My hair needs a color boost, people. I can’t just stop!).
Product! I need some product!
Karina Wolfe from my novel What Happens in College… made mistakes. Big ones. But despite everything that is thrown her way she realizes she can’t hide from the actions of the past. She also can’t let one decision define her. She perseveres, just as we all try to do, steeling our spine and raising our chin. We take each day, one at a time. And although some days are better than others (Who breaks up with someone by correcting the grammar in their email?), we keep pushing on, knowing we’re destined for so much more.
Because regrets may not define us, but they make up who we are and help us reach the full potential of who we will become.